It’s here. We knew it was coming but neither one of us was ready. You’re starting second grade and I’m feeling the time slip away every time you hit a new milestone. The preparations for this school year has me thinking about the things I want for you. My hopes and prayers as you start a new year and some practical things as well.
So here we go…
Be kind. Always. You’ve had to learn the hard way that kids are not always kind. Especially when you’re the smallest in your class. I wouldn’t ever wish for you to be picked on but I pray that you can use those experiences in your life to help shape the man you will become. I hope that you remember those feelings and that you won’t ever want to cause that hurt in anyone else.
Show love. Remember that song we like to listen to? It says “Got put a million, million doors in the world for his love to walk through. One of those doors is you” Remember that we can’t sit around waiting for others to do something, we need to be a door for God’s love to walk through. Give it away freely.
Make new friends. When class lists came in the mail a couple of weeks ago you were pretty bummed to learn that you weren’t in the same class as all of your close friends. I’ll admit that I was too. You had a rough year last year and got really close to a great group of boys. And now it felt like the band is breaking up! But sometimes that’s just the way things go and to allow you to be comfortable in every situation in life isn’t going to help you any. So instead I want you to learn from this. It’s good to make new friends. It’s good to be out of your comfort zone. It’s good to branch out and try new things. Just because one friend likes one sport doesn’t mean you’re stuck doing the same thing. Try everything and find YOUR thing!
That brings me to… Try new things! I think it’s so important to try different activities and sports growing up. New experiences help shape who you will become. They’ll stretch you outside of your comfort level and that’s a good thing! Don’t get stuck doing one sport just because that’s what your best friend does. It’s ok to do something else. And if that friend is a good one he will support you in whatever you do. I missed out on a lot in school because I was afraid to try things that my friends weren’t doing. When I finally did it was my last year of high school but I had a blast! I wish I had learned some of these things earlier on in school.
Don’t be annoying. Seriously. Don’t be the kid at the lunch table grabbing someone else’s chips and hiding them behind your lunch box. It’s so annoying and not really that funny. That is all on that matter.
Let me hug you. Maybe even just before we leave for the day? Or in the car? I promise not to do it in front of your friends. Not even a fist bump or a high five if that’s not cool either. But I do reserve the right to rub your head or give you a quick wink. I promise other moms are doing it too. I love you so much and it rips my heart out to leave you everyday. So please please don’t be so mortified that I want one last squeeze. Just give me that cute little grin and I know you’ll mean you love me too.
Ask for help. I know you’re a guy and that’s pretty much against your guy code but don’t go through life lost. Just ask for help and get it over with.
Own your mistakes. Because you’re going to make them and that’s ok. But instead of making excuses and trying to get yourself out of a corner just own it and move one. I promise you’ll feel better and others will respect you more for it. I know I will.
Speaking of respect… please be respectful. Of adults. Of others. Of your parents (ahem). Just be respectful. It’ll take you farther in life than you’d think.
It would take a book to write my heart to you and I know you’re in a hurry to get outside and play so I’ll end it there. Just know that I love you and would do anything for you. Including letting you fail sometimes and helping you pick up the pieces. And hugging you after a rough day. And coming on your field trips. And sitting at your games and concerts and looking at your art. You are an amazing kid with a face full of freckles that I know you don’t like but that God placed specifically on your sweet nose. You’re going to do great things and I’m so honored to be along for the ride!
Have a fantastic year buddy!