1. You’re not “busy”.
Sure, you are in college and work nearly full-time, all while maintaining a relatively active social life. Cramming projects in at 2:00 a.m. seemed a necessity because you are just so “busy” balancing these responsibilities.
Honey, you have absolutely no idea what it means to be busy…
Now you have two active boys, a marathon-running husband, volunteer on a regular basis, all while starting (and maintaining) a small business.
You wouldn’t change a thing, but your threshold for busy will drastically change.
2. It is more important to collect experiences instead of “stuff”.
After college the latest designer handbags, a fancy new SUV, and shiny diamond solitaire earrings somehow made you feel really important. You foolishly thought that by possessing these really nice items that, somehow, you must be important or have it all together.
In the next 15 years, you will experience the joy and beauty of a caring and supportive marriage, the unwavering love that a mother can have for her children, giving to others who aren’t as fortunate, and creating special family memories simply over some ice cream on Mother’s Day.
You will have a handbag from Target and that fancy vehicle is now a mini-van.
Don’t worry, the earrings are still in the rotation. 🙂
Despite the change in your perspective, you will feel more whole and fulfilled with memories and relationships instead of “stuff”.
3. Create your own doors of opportunity.
In life, you aren’t entitled to anything.
It doesn’t matter where you came from, what degree you have, or even where you have been.
Just because you got a graduate degree (which you will) in your chosen field, that doesn’t mean that your path won’t take you in another direction.
When you feel stuck in your chosen career, don’t wait for your next opportunity to present itself. Open your mind and create your own opportunity, then my dear, you truly are in charge of your destiny!
4. Pay it forward.
You have been given every opportunity to succeed in this world.
This doesn’t mean that you were fed with a silver spoon, but rather were raised in a supportive home with every basic necessity available to you.
You haven’t yet been exposed to others who struggle every single day trying to make a better life for themselves and their families (all while wondering if there is an eviction notice or ER visit around the corner).
Use your talents and opportunities to volunteer in a non-profit organization that parallels with your life’s mission.
So you know, my heart is now full when I leave my volunteer experience knowing that I made a difference in someone’s life. It gives me perspective and keeps me humble, thankful, and connected.
5. Force yourself outside your comfort zone.
At 20, you had crafted a pretty neat circle of friends and life experiences that made you feel safe, secure, and loved. Why would you ever leave this lovely little place?
At 30, you will move to a new state only having a handful of acquaintances, no job options, and will pregnant with your second child.
It will take a while, but slowly you will make some new friends, join social organizations, and enter the working world.
And it was worth it.
I am convinced that had I not pushed myself beyond my comfort zone, I would not be able to reach the potential I see for myself now. You are now stronger and more capable than you could ever imagine.
What do you wish you could tell your 20 year old self?