A few weeks ago, I read a post about What Matters in a Friendship. It was a beautiful piece and makes me realize how much my people, my girls, mean to me.
I love that every bit of that post applies to my friendships. I love that I am surrounded by deep, wonderful friendships without pretense or the need to prove myself worthy.
I love that we are just as good of friends in sweats and t-shirts as we are in evening gowns!
But there’s more I’d like to add in regards to the people who hold my secrets, know my fears, and continue to love me anyway.
You see, despite my ability to over communicate about the nonsensical issues of my day-to-day existence, I rarely take the time to let my people know how much they mean to me.
Friendship is purposeful, meaningful, and a beautiful result of learning more about myself and surrounding myself accordingly.
And I’m blessed with the people in my surroundings.
I love that my friends and I have secret Pinterest boards, fraught with inside jokes that poke fun at my quirks, insecurities and each other’s lives.
I love that feeling of gut-busting laughter, when someone’s snorting and someone else is rolling on the ground guffawing, and I’m wondering if I will ever, ever, take another breath as tears of laughter stream down my face.
That’s my kind of friendship.
Without my girlfriends, I’d be heading to midnight showings of Twilight all by myself. And only true friends stay up until the wee hours of the morning to watch the latest book-turned-movie, knowing that we all have to work and function the next day as if we’re 17 and 3 hours of sleep is normal.
Without my girlfriends, I would run races completely alone. And there is nothing sadder than pounding pavement, day after day, mile after mile, without that other person who’s thinking she’s totally crazy for allowing you to talk her into this!
Without my girlfriends, vacations would be a lot more expensive. Because, really, there’s nothing like splitting a hotel room four ways! Also, the best trips involve no itineraries and lots of spontaneous decisions!
I feel so incredibly blessed to have them in my life, even if it was for just a season. Because that’s the part of friendship that is the most important part, the one that that no distance, no time apart can separate:
The deep understanding that comes from the sharing of our lives.
Our joys, our tears, our triumphs and our defeats are the glue that holds these relationships together.
You see, at every phase of my life, I have developed deep, loving friendships with wonderful women (and in some cases when we were just girls). We may not see each other often, but those threads of friendship are so tightly woven into the fabric of my life, there’s no amount of time or distance that can unravel it.
I don’t know if you have found your people. Your people who you can share your soul with. I don’t know if you have those relationships in which you can be yourself, but I hope you do.